When we think about our jobs, women have many; work, wife, mother, daughter, cheerleader, cook, friend. With all the responsibilities women hold, it’s important to step back and ask ‘what do I really want?” To dig deeper into this topic, we decided to ask you, the women of WiBN, what you want. Some answers may surprise you.
“When I started on the journey of completing a master’s, degree the end goal was to achieve my perception of success, money and title. Now that the degree has been obtained I have been asking myself is this still a goal. Wow, what do I want, this is a tough question! When it comes down to it at the end of the day I want to impact people, I want to help people meet their goals and achieve their dreams. I want to help bridge the gap between where you are to where you want to be. I want to share struggles, challenges, successes, and dreams with other people. I want to learn and connect.”
“For me, personally, what I look for most in the job I hold is the flexibility. I am a wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, and friend. All of those people are very important to me and my job needs to provide me flexibility to be who God created me to be in those “jobs” as well as the job that pays me money.”
“I’ll start with what I don’t want… stress. I would like to give myself as much down time as I give work, family, and community. I schedule all the “important” things, but never schedule “me time”. I know that I would be a better co-worker, family member and volunteer if I were able to relax and refresh. Not sure how to make that happen :)”
I want confidence. Confidence in knowing that I am utilizing the best resources, skills, and connections to fulfill tasks and goals to the best of my ability. Confidence can be very fleeting where one moment you feel like you’re sky high and then the next moment you’re doubting everything. If I could smooth out some of the ‘peaks and valleys’ that effect my confidence levels that would be fabulous!
Still unsure of what you want? Here are 3 steps to help you on your journey to finding out.
1. Accept where you are, for now.
Most women put very high expectations on themselves. Getting to the next job, career level or goal is going to take time. What matters is your intention and taking action to help you answer the question of what you really want.
2. Give yourself permission to dream and plan.
For women, it’s normal to feel you can’t take time for yourself. But it is important to step away and develop your own dreams and goals. Create time in your routine. Even if it’s only a few minutes a week. You owe it to yourself and those around you to renew, refresh, dream and plan for what you want.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
The journey is always easier when you have someone to help and encourage you to take those next steps. You need an advocate. Find a mentor, a friend or a business associate to inspire you, make suggestions and keep you on track.