That’s What She Said: Making Our Internal Dialogue our Biggest Cheerleader
Whether or not we recognize it or hear it, we have this voice in our head: the voice in our head that tells us we’re not ready. The voice in our head that makes our failures louder than our wins. The voice in our head that compares us to the woman beside us. The voice in our head that tells us someday, but not today.
The voice in our head is our internal dialogue we have with our feelings, decisions and actions. We’re not just out in this world aimlessly reacting to anything and everything without thought. We have a buffer in our head that puts a space between our world and how we feel and respond. We have a conversation with ourselves just like we’d have with a friend. And that buffer and conversation is the voice in our head that tells us when:
- We can or can’t.
- We’re too old or too young.
- We’re too busy or too bored.
- We’re too tall or too short.
- We’re ready or not.
The story we write in our head tells us how we’re going to respond. Are we good enough? Up for the challenge? Is it the “right” time? Whatever the answer, the voice in our head will tell us, and frankly, sometimes it doesn’t know what the heck it’s talking about. Sometimes, girlfriend is whack. It tells us we shouldn’t apply for the job or it’s not the right time or we’re not good enough or it feeds off of all the negativity. So what happens when we change the story?
Opportunity. That’s what happens when we change the voice in our head to tell us that there’s good and we can bring it. It opens up a whole other world that maybe we thought was beyond reach before. Everything we want is within reach if we’re willing to throw perfection out the door and embrace the messiness of the journey.
But first, we have to learn to recognize the voice in our head and train it to be our biggest cheerleader, instead of the coach that keeps putting you on the bench. In this keynote, Jess will use her story of Headbands of Hope to show how she actively trained the voice in her head through times of inspiration, chaos, failure and purpose.
Some past clients for this talk include Leadercast Women and Women’s Business Summit.
- Recognizing the voice in our head and what it tells us
- Tips to making our internal dialogue more positive
- Learning that confidence is a voice, not a skill
- Understanding that we are always in control of our story
Most tweeted line from this talk: We can’t always control our experiences, but we can always write our story.